Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

To raise a child with good manners and discipline is not an easy deal. You have to be strict sometimes, but as a parent keep in mind that you are the

 To raise a child with good manners and discipline is not an easy deal. You have to be strict sometimes, but as a parent keep in mind that you are the one whom your child will follow, so try to control your strict emotions.

Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

When you will behave in a mature way and think with maturity, it will get easier for you to choose a good and fair punishment for your child if the child misbehaves, the punishment should be the one that will teach the child instead of making the child more arrogant.

Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

The first thing to remember while punishing your child, is never use to beat or slap them. Try other methods. We have shared this guide to help you in this regard to make your children live their life as better human being and better citizen.

Teach your Child

  • Before setting or applying any punishment upon your child, teach your child the manners and behaviors yourself. Tell them what is the difference between right and wrong and how they should behave in any situation, how to handle their moods and emotions in different situations. Tell them that to be arrogant and misbehaving is bad, they should behave in a good and loving way.

Consistency in your Behavior

  • Be a consistent rule maker and show consistency in following the rules that you have started to work up on in your home. If the child breaks the rule, punish him/her in the right way, every time. Don't do it like you are punishing the child at one time and ignore the next time.
  • This off and on behavior can lead the child to think that there is no issue if he will break any of the rule. The child must learn to follow the set rules.

Same Punishment

  • Tell your child all the rules and punishments for breaking any rule. And if the child breaks the same rule, punish the child in the same way every time, or if the two kids break the same rule punish them the same way.
  • So, it will be clear in the kid's mind that there is no difference between any child, and if the child is repeating the same mistake every time, talk to the child and discuss with the child how can he/she control and manage himself/herself.

Point out Child's Misbehavior
Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

  • If the child misbehaves, don't let it go. Point the child's behavior and make him understand that it's not good to behave like this, and tell the child that what would be the punishment if he will repeat the same behavior.
  • And if the child does the same, punish the child as you told him, this will make him remember about the rule and punishment in future. And  if he leaves, appreciate the child and love him.

What if Child Asks to Stop Punishing

  • If the child feels bad, and he has guilt for misbehaving, then don't let him go straight after you see tears in the child's eyes. Choose some reasonable punishment to stop the real punishment to let the child go away.

Don't Make the Child Feel Hate
Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

  • On small mistakes, don't punish the child, its enough to warn the child. Punishment should be applied on bigger misbehaviors, tell the child that what he should learn from mistakes. 
  • If you will punish the child for too much little things, the child will feel that you always just looking at the chance to punish him.
  • And punishing again and again can make the bond between you and your child weak, the child will start losing trust in you if you will not let the child to explain his problem.

Be a Wise Parent

  • Being a wise parent is not an easy thing, you will have to control your anger, but still firm about your set rules. Talk to your child on their bad behavior, tell them the worse that can happen because of their bad behavior. And how they will make themselves good person for the society if they will overcome the mistakes they are making.
  • Remeber not to be arrogant, if you will show your anger in a bad way, the same thing your child will repeat in the future.
  • And your appreciation for the good deeds of your child can encourage them to do more good.

Be with your Partner
Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

  • Remember, when you have child and you are the parents bringing the child up, you and your partner should be agree with the same rules. This should not be happened that you or your partner is punishing the child for something and the other person is on the side of the child.
  • This way the child will run to the parent who is trying to save the child from punishment, and the child will do this every time. This behavior can bring more and more bad behaviors in your child.
  • And if you and your partner will be united, this will provide a better atmosphere for your child to grow up.

Your Behavior

  • Always keep in your mind, that you are the first and the best role model for your child. Behave in a decent way in front of your child. Don't be harsh with your partner or any one else in front of your child. Show gratitude to anyone you meet, when your child is with you.
  • Try to do everything in the best possible way when your child is around and try to show loving emotions in front of your child instead of showing anger and haterd.

Celebrate Good Points
Punishing your Child to Teach Discipline

  • When your child do something in a good way, tries to help someone or any good deed for anyone, celebrate this thing, reward the child, appreciate the child in a good way. You can make your child happy with little things, hug the child, kiss him, give him a chocolate or cook something that the child likes.
  • This will surprise the child and the child will feel loved and happy.

So, this read was to help you know about how you can overcome any bad behavior of your child, and how you should punish a child if it is needed. You may also learn about what to do to be a good parent for your child.